Schedule regular “check-in” conversations about your sexual desires and needs. Be specific! Instead of saying “I want more sex,” try “I’d love to explore intimacy through sensual massage twice a week.”
Prioritize Non-Sexual Intimacy
- Hold hands more frequently. Give unexpected kisses. Share a relaxing bath together. Engage in shared hobbies.
These small gestures build a foundation of closeness that enhances sexual intimacy.
Create a Sensual Atmosphere
Dim the lights. Light candles. Play soft music. Use aromatherapy oils (lavender, sandalwood).
Setting the mood significantly impacts the experience.
Practice Active Listening
Focus entirely on your partner during conversations about sex. Ask clarifying questions and reflect back what you hear to ensure understanding. For example, if your partner says they feel rushed, respond with, “So, you’re feeling pressured and want to slow things down? Is that right?”
Explore Different Forms of Affection
- Experiment with different types of touch. Try new positions. Introduce sensual massage. Explore fantasies together (responsibly).
Variety keeps things exciting and prevents boredom.
Manage Stress and Anxiety
Stress significantly impacts libido. Prioritize relaxation techniques such as yoga, meditation, or spending time in nature. Consider couple’s therapy if stress is significantly impacting your relationship.
Seek Professional Guidance
A therapist specializing in sexual health can provide tailored advice and support if you’re facing persistent challenges.
